Happiness is an Inside Job

“Do not fear failure, but be terrified of giving up”. – Unknown She had been in her nice life long enough to get comfortable, and that was what made it dangerous. Her whole life she has done what she was “supposed to” because she thought what she dreamed of, was too far out of reach. So, she became comfortable. Day

Relationships Require Vulnerability

“Relationships are the laboratory of the Soul” – Rev Michael Beckwith Relationships, we as humans naturally gravitate towards them. It is often said we are not designed to endure this life alone, so we intuitively connect with those who are from our tribe/family or have like minds, bodies, and hobbies. Typically there is something we have in common. Sadly, often

Boundaries

“Well, thanks for stopping and let’s catch up in a couple weeks when you guys are done syruping”. My girlfriend’s words stopped me in my tracks. For a moment it caught me off guard. I was totally expecting that she’d invite me in and we’d hang out for a little bit and then I’d head back home. On the way

Using Fear to Reconnect

“Fear does not prevent death. It prevents Life.” Buddha The famous scripture the Bhagavad Gita opens with a strong and mighty warrior about to head into the battle of his life. Normally composed and confident, this time he is filled with a fear so incredible he completely loses his focus. What comes to him in this time of fear, is

Gimme One Reason

I am a dirty hippy. Specifically, I am a dirty tree hugging, dirt worshiping, wool sock wearing hippy. This is a title my son Christian bestowed upon me years ago. I take it with incredible love as even he recognized he’s just like me.  While he’s not doing much dirty hippy stuff these days in the Navy, I know the

You Were Made For This

The saying goes, “a Navy recruit enlists. Their parents get drafted”. When I hugged my man/boy good-bye for the last time, I cried big crocodile, sad Momma tears like never before. Not like the first time his Dad picked him up and had him for five days straight after we separated, or when Christian left for nine weeks of Boy

Learning to Be Someone Else, Who Is Really Myself

As many of you know, my one and only child recently left to join the US Navy. Proud? Heck yes. Excited? Yup! Sad and crying? Oh, freakin’ absolutely! The plight of the only child is that all of your parent’s everything gets put on you: their hopes, fears, limitations and often, their sense of fulfillment. When I made the decision

Let Me Watch You Fly

Pemo Chodron writes, “One of my favorite subjects of contemplation is this question: Since death is certain, but the time of death is uncertain, what is the most important thing?” And so it goes. Life is full, for all of us, constantly. There is no “have time” there is “make time” and “make it a priority”. I recently completed my

What is Most Important

Pemo Chodron writes, “One of my favorite subjects of contemplation is this question: Since death is certain, but the time of death is uncertain, what is the most important thing?” And so it goes. Life is full, for all of us, constantly. There is no “have time” there is “make time” and “make it a priority”. I recently completed my

Loving All of Him

“I love him, I just wish he’d eat better…and exercise…”  she said. “Yeah, and I wish mine would listen to what I say and trust I know what I’m talking about.” I said, laughing. “I just wish he’d pay attention, I mean we’ve been together for 10 years, he should just know.” Here’s the deal, when we love someone we