In the sanctuary of others

In the sanctuary of others    I am an introvert. To some of you that will be shocking, to others not so much. I am fine by myself; being home, traveling, going out to dinner, etc. I love my people but I don’t NEED them to have something to do. I don’t “need someone to go with” when I want

NO as a complete sentence

NO as a complete sentence   Once again she was validating why she was setting a boundary with a person who has no sense of boundaries. Every word she said after “No, I can’t because…” was just more fuel for the fire.    Just say “NO.” and be done with it, a friend told her.   “What she said,” I

Letting us off the hook – New Year message from LampLighter

Letting us off the hook – New Year message from LampLighter   I had been feeling it. The desire to just sleep, to rest, to drink hot beverages from a pottery mug, to write, to feel, to sit… and not much else.    I was on my feet of course, working, cooking, entertaining, all the holiday things… but this undercurrent

Don’t take time, Make time…

Don’t take time, Make time…   Making your List, checking it twice… are you on it? Tis’ the season for all the things!!! I love the holidays! All the busyness, gatherings, hosting, shopping, decorating, food, parties, I love it all! … Until I don’t. As a good extroverted introvert, (that means I was raised to engage well with others, but

A year of relationship stages

A year of relationship stages “This makes everything in my life make sense.” It was a comment made during one of our LampLighter mid-month check ins. A new member was participating in a conversation in which we discussed a core theme of 2024 – relationship. The entire year in regards to relationships has been about receiving clarity. The phrase that

Telling of Two Things

“I literally told her like 10 percent of what is happening with me, and guess what she says.” My client is talking about a conversation she had with her Mother in regards to a recent well-being retreat involving lovely processes such as deep yoga, clean eating, healing sessions, etc. that she is loving herself through. There is an old counseling

The option of suffering

It has been said that in life, pain is guaranteed, suffering is optional. Yup. Let’s talk about this. A few weeks ago I was working with a client of mine and she was talking about her soon to be ex-spouse. For years their relationship had been toxic; abuse on every level, talking down to her in public creating incredible humiliation,

Attracting From Your Core

man meditating in front of a lake surrounded by mountains at sunrise

It was such a great conversation I just have to share. I have been working with this client who, like all of my clients, is absolutely amazing. Yes, I am biased and I have no problem with that. This person started on this leg of their personal journey and has implemented daily self-care, practices, and strategies that have lifted their

The Power of the Mantra

I keep telling myself, “I am happy, I am healthy, I am wealthy, I am wise” , she said. “I’m reinforcing to myself that all is well. As I get older, I know I have to be clear what messages I’m giving myself”. Brilliant. Our minds are learning machines! If you take a look at just a few of the