When I heard the message come through from Spirit I literally froze for a moment. I genuinely did not believe that that was the kind of guidance my client was looking for.
“Do nothing,” spirit said.
My client had asked me a question of how to support some really good friends of theirs in the grieving process. While the original incident happened a year ago, as many of us know, the grieving process is a continual flow of being totally OK and the next moment collapsed in tears. My client was simply looking for ways to support others in their grieving process.
Spirit spoke, “do nothing,” and when they said those words, gave me a very clear vision of his hand, simply resting on the shoulder of his dear friend.
A matter of days later, I have the opportunity to try this out myself. My granddaughter has recently gone through an incredible loss and in a moment of overwhelm, curled herself up into a ball next to me, and put her head in my lap. Grandpa threw a blanket over her, which she pulled up over her head to close out the world, and closed her eyes as a signal for us to just stop talking and trying to fix something that could not be repaired. I took a few deep breaths and the message I had received on behalf of my client a few days earlier came back at home.
“Do nothing.”
So often when someone is grieving, we want to have the right words, bring the right gifts or food, do all the right things to try and ease their pain. Logically, we know that there is absolutely nothing we can do but emotionally we still want to fix it for them.
Spirit talked about this as the greatest gift of love to simply sit and be in the discomfort with someone we care about.
While that may seem like a tall order, I encourage you to be mindful of the power of simply being willing to sit and do nothing, say nothing, but simply be a presence for someone in grief.
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Forever the journey, Anne