You’re on joy
Her Spirit showed her, illuminated, glowing, encompassed, on fire.
“Be on JOY,” Spirit said, as they continued this burning image of her being the fire as she walks through her life.
You see it all started in a conversation about limiting beliefs, and for her specifically how she had been taught to find her place of value by what she did for others. She has a very others based personality, in that she finds her greatest happiness and her greatest sense of contentment in the company of others. Being with people allows her to feel her best. This is not an extrovert thing. She is an introvert, AND she needs people alongside her to feel fully herself.
She has also been raised in an environment that directed her to believe that others are more important than she is, so her only value has been in what she gives to others. This has created a super common dynamic, especially in women, where they view the constant needs of others as vitally important and also laborious because our ego needs to see us as constantly sacrificing so that we can justify giving to ourselves on occasion, “I deserve this for everything I put up with.”
It is the tangled web our habit minds can weave because we experience our worth based on the amount of sacrifice and struggle we “endure” for others. Others can be our spouse, our kids, our friends, co-workers, job, boss, the list goes on and on because you see the goal in our ego mind is not WHO it is about, but HOW we see ourselves.
Enter in Spirit. Spirit knows our intrinsic value, and it knows that WE know we have true value. Not the kind that has to show up and be proven, but the kind that is innate within us just because we exist.
So her Spirit spoke to her about her need to find what brings her joy as a compass forward.
As Spirit spoke about her finding joy, I felt her energy field fall down around her. She has no idea how to find joy… genuinely. It sounds nice, but she and many others literally have no idea how to find joy. That doesn’t mean we don’t have moments of happiness, but the concept of joy as an ongoing experience, the ebb and the flow, is incomprehensible.
So Spirit showed her this burning experience. On fire with JOY, smiling, radiant. Walking through life with her hands and heart wide open. “Be on JOY,” her Spirit said.
It seems odd to many that finding our joy should be so foreign. We are designed to know what makes us feel good, and gravitate towards it, but this life often gives us different stories that distract us from knowing our true worth. When we don’t know our worth it is because we have lost connection with ourselves. So, we talked about what it would look like to know her true self. Practices in discovering her connection to her own depth and wisdom.
In the end she left with something very different than what she started with, a greater clarity on what is holding her back from finding the happiness in her life that she KNOWS she deserves, along with some practices to shift out of the limiting beliefs holding her back from herself ON JOY!
Stop for a moment and ask yourself: What would my best friend want for me? Now, begin to follow that. To find JOY, you must follow your heart’s desires and in the process give the limitations away bit by bit.
Forever the journey, Anne